Republicans, Women, Rape and a Room

•October 21, 2009 • Leave a Comment

So what do you get when 30 Republican senators are in the same room? Legislation drafted and passed to protect the American people, the consumer?  Changes to our educational system?  Environment protection?  Hell no!

What you get is 30 Republican senators voting against protection for women.  Yep, you have heard it.

On October 6, 2009, Senator Al Franken (D-MI) introduced an amendment to the Defense Appropriations Bill preserving the right of rape victims to sue their employer in court.

As noted by The Political Animal, the subject amendment was inspired by Jamie Leigh Jones, an employee of a defense contractor Kellogg, Brown & Root.  Jamie claims she was gang-raped by co-workers while assigned to Iraq.

The amendment passed the Senate 68-30.  All 30 who voted against it are Republican senators more concerned about the safety and security of the business sector than women’s rights.

Do Republicans support the rape of women?  No.  But their actions support status quo in which, as Nathan Havey says, rape and sexual violence flourish and live on.

So, my female friends.  If you are an employee of a company with a US government contract and are raped (God forbid) while on the job, please refrain from contacting a Republican senator.  He does not and will not care.

For your enjoyment or anger or frustration, here is the list (click here) of all those individuals who voted against the protection and safety of women.

By the way, all these senators are white, male and from the South (except for Ensign– yeah that one– of Nevada).  Kid you not!



Anything Wrong?

•July 30, 2009 • Leave a Comment


Thursday night and here I am sitting at home alone watching TV and posting an entry on my blog.  It is pathetic, I know.  I feel so alone and lonely.  Is it possible to feel that way?  I guess it is.

I have gone out with a few women but have not felt that “spark” that tells me that she is the “one”.

What is wrong?  I wish I knew but don’t.

As I have gotten older, I have become pickier when it comes to dating.  Is that holding me back from finding and meeting that special person?

I want to meet a woman whose kisses will send chills down my back.  I want to meet a woman I want to kiss and make love with all night long, while looking into her eyes and with whom I can spoon and hold afterwards.

Is this even remotely possible?

My Daughter, Her Trip and My Discomfort

•July 24, 2009 • 1 Comment
My little girl has been out of town on trips for the holidays.  And it is happening again.

She isleaving tonight (1:45 am) for Guatemala on vacation with her mother.  I feel so restless, nervous and uncomfortable, even though I trust my ex, her mother, to take care of our little girl.

I guess what bothers me is the fact that she will be far from me in an environment over which I have no control.  It is an environment which makes it almost impossible for me to have first-hand knowledge of what is going on.

I have no idea how to deal with these emotions.  All I can do is hope and pray she will return safely.

In love? It’s Not Enough to Keep a Marriage

•July 14, 2009 • Leave a Comment

In love? It’s not enough to keep a marriage, study finds – Yahoo! News

RDV PR Beach Couple2I guess this article dampens all those assumptions or dreams about “living happily ever after.”  It does, however, bring into perspective what actually takes to maintain one’s marriage (or a relationship, for that matter), alive, well and going.

The article touches upon matters and issues that sometime couples take for granted and they do not realize how those matters are hurting and helping their relationship.

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Body Work (AKA Tattos)

•July 11, 2009 • 2 Comments

So tonight I was visiting (actually browsing) some of those famous dating websites.  As I clicked and read profiles that caught my eye, I noticed an interesting pattern (for the lack of better term): tattoos or body work, if you will.

Some of the ladies in the profiles proudly showed off their arms and upper chest (from the breast area up) covered totally with ink.  A few of the ladies were school teachers and other, say, high profile careers.  But that kind of turned me off.  Why was that?

Believe me when I say that I am not old-fashioned in any way, shape or form.  I love a tattoo strategically placed on a woman’s body: back, waist, near her butt, ankle, thighs and other areas you can imagine.

But a whole body covered with ink?  What is your take?

Have Sex or Make Love?

•July 9, 2009 • 1 Comment

In these days and times, it is easy to blur the line between sex and making love. Society has made us to do so. We find ourselves not being able to distinguish the difference between the two.

To me, sex is the mere physical act of just finding pleasure for the sake of pleasure. It is done because it feels good. It brings us a certain level of satisfaction. Making love, well, is a different story.

I make love because I care for and about someone. She is a special person in my life. I do not make love for the sake of physical satisfaction. I make love because I feel close to that someone. She makes me feel good as a man, as a person. We connect on diferent levels.

But we need to keep in mind one thing: we should not make love to someone. We should make love with someone.

Chemistry and Relationships

•July 9, 2009 • Leave a Comment

Chemistry and relationships– a topic that haunts us those seeking to find, build, develop and maintain a meaningful and deep relationship with the One. But do we know the true meaning of chemistry?

I recently came across an article written by Toni Coleman, LCSW, in which she points out that we, human beings, tend to confuse romantic love with great sex. Yeah, that sex that makes our body sweaty, tingle with excitement, our toes curl and explode in a great orgasm (actually, my interpretation… but you get the point) We confuse the two because we are missing spiritual affinity.

Toni tells us that spiritual affinity is “ the hidden element of chemistry. It’s when two beings meet and connect on a deeper level. It can only be felt in the heart and soul. It’s about friendship, respect, humor and the feelings of warmth and contentment that come when you are in his/her presence.’”

Let us not fool ourselves into believing that spiritual affinity, as Toni says, is immediate. It happens over time as more contacts between the interested parties happen. It eventually leads to develop relationships based on trust, commitment, comfort and friendship.